Married men having gay sex
What’s going on with the number of married men that are having gay sex!
Go to any number of online dating sites such as Gay.com or Gaydar and look at the number of ads placed by married men and your mind will boggle!
From my own personal experience I have been with a number (more than 10 I think) of them. You can usually pick them as they give very little about their life away.
Anyway, the thing that prompted todays post is I was recently on the Cheaters Forum looking at some of the posts and I came upon one which was posted by a lady that has discovered that her husband has been having sex with another man for the past 18 months. She was seeking advice on what to do in the situation.
This situation is more common then most of us realize. I know in my group of friends and acquaintances there would be at least 10 guys that have been married but now consider themselves to be gay. In Australia and some states of America there are even support groups to help support married men that are gay such as GAMMA. There are even a number of books that have been written on the issue including My Husband Is Gay: A Woman's Survival Guide
It is becoming more and more common that married men come out later in life. I think some of this is due to homosexuality becoming more mainstream. For some men, they do not work out that they are gay until much later in life. For example, a friend of mine has just had his first gay experience at 56! He said he may have just suppressed it all this time while he was married for 25 years. He recently got divorced and then it happened. He was a little shell-shocked as he had never even thought of being with another man. He is a really honest man so I believe him when he says he had never had a gay experience until then.
Another couple I know, they have been married for 10 years (they have two young kids) and two years ago she discovered that her husband had been having an affair with another man for six of the ten years of their marriage. It’s taken about a year but they are actually friends now. She says that it took a while but once she accepted that her husband has probably always been gay all along but due to family, society and self pressure he was forced in the closet and only managed to get the courage to come out later. She is now 39 and getting on with her life and dating.
The blame game when the truth comes out is never the best way for both the husband and wife. Honest and open communication is the key so both parties can make decisions based on fact. So too is not using the kids as a tool to punish and assign guilt!