Saturday, May 27, 2006

Workplace Infidelity It's Hard work...

eMilyism proposed an idea which has resulted in the subject for today’s post. We are both posting on our respective Blogs about the same subject. The subject: Infidelity in the workplace

It must be the water in Sydney…but over the past six months I’ve personally heard of more than 20 incidents of office infidelity, it’s going crazy over here. But maybe this is a global movement after all if you believe the stats below…

www.menstuff.org website posted results of a survey on infidelity with some extraordinary results. For example in the survey posted on this site:

- 2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers

- 75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with

I’m sure these stats aren't completely accurate but who knows, seriously, you never know. In the workplace I work in, I know of five couples that met at work, whether they committed infidelity when getting together I’m not sure about.

Personally I’ve never been involved in any type of office romance of any description. I guess I’ve never worked anywhere that had any hotties and being gay also significantly reduced my suitable options as well. Friends of mine have committed infidelity in their workplace and some still continue with it today.

Theoretically, it makes complete sense that infidelity in the workplace would be common. Given we spend more quality waking time with our workmates then we do with our significant other at home.

Workplace infidelity takes many different forms but usually starts out with a bit of innocent flirting > moves to serious flirting > to lunch dates with each other > to phone calls outside work hours > meetings after work > kissing > sex…

A friend of mine Lisa (of course, totally not her real name) had an affair with a guy that works in the same office as her. Lisa was single at the time and this guy Phil (not his real name) was (and is still) married. They knew each other in passing, that was until a staff Christmas party had them chatting over a few (too many) drinks (what’s up with staff Christmas parties!... that’s a post for another time I think). One thing led to another and they were meeting every other day for a quickie in the toilets of the building they worked in. While the relationship began with the intentions of it remaining sexual this guy Phil wanted to leave his wife to be with Lisa. Of cause she called it off at this point.

My friend Lisa, being the level headed girl says she has learnt a lesson from her experience. She says there are just way too many risks that can arise as a result of workplace infidelity. Jjust in case you’re pondering whether to commit workplace infidelity here are some questions Lisa reckons you should ask yourself before embracing the beast...

- What happens when the sexual relationship ends and one party wants it to continue?
- What happens when others at work find out?
- What happens if it turns ugly?
- What happens if you fall in love?

You’ll be happy to know that Lisa is now in a committed relationship with her man of 2 years now…FYI – she met him on a blind date!

Until next time…all comments welcomed.

4 Comments:

At 2:59 am, Blogger eMilyism said...

Pardon my french...but farking good shit. I assume you're a writer?

Will write mine as soon as i finish my research on 'sex and the workplace'.

Love,
eM.

 
At 5:00 am, Blogger eMilyism said...

Hey Rod,

Posted mine. Do read and comment. Mine's very personal...and borderline fragile :)

Love,
eM.

 
At 6:28 pm, Blogger eMilyism said...

Kudos to 'Lisa' for making the right decision to end the affair. Not everybody caught in the same situation will have the right mind to call it a night when he wants to leave his wife and family.

 
At 10:07 pm, Blogger karmawendy said...

I wish my H had read this before he embarked on on! His luckily or unluckily was not friendship or love, just pure sex with availibility. I know from my past relationships at work are simple to emerge and hard to resolve. He had to keep working with the OW for awhile and still has to deal with the reality that probably everyone at work knows and has judged him one way or another. I have to live with that humiliation. Ouch!

 

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